Have you ever heard the quote “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent“? It’s a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt, who was married to President Franklin Delano Roosevelt. I looked up a lot of her quotes and some were very fitting, even in our modern times. From what I read it seems like Eleanor was full of wisdom. Her husband was elected president in 1933 and served three terms. Back in those days women were still expected to smile sweetly and keep their opinions to themselves. How wonderful is it though that this great woman DID speak her mind? She was a trendsetter for sure.
The quote above has become one of my favorites. When I read this quote it gives me courage. For my entire life I have been the shy, reserved, meek wallflower who’s position in life has been that of a doormat. I have never liked that position and have tried for many years to overcome it. This past year has finally brought some relief for me. In my journey of self discovery and learning positive thinking I have found something inside me I had no idea was there. It was the realization that the reason I felt inferior to people was because I LET them make me feel that way. Yes, it was me. I gave them permission to make me feel inferior. Even though I have always said that no one is better than me and vice versa I still felt inferior on many occasions and it made me feel so bad about myself. Feeling bad about yourself is at the top of the negative thinking pile. One bad thought about yourself leads to another. And another. And yet another. It’s a vicious cycle and it’s mighty hard to break.
When we are trapped in the negative thinking cycle it breeds more negativity into our lives. We have to break free of the negative thoughts and replace them with positive ones instead. We get back what we put out. If we put out negativity that’s what returns to us. If we put out positive we get that back instead. Allowing others to make us feel inferior is definitely on the negative side of life and unless we change that then we will continue down the wrong path. Anyone who chooses to treat you as inferior is in a negative frame of mind. That is THEIR problem, not yours. I’ve moved away from having angry thoughts about these types of people and instead I feel pity for them. I also say a prayer in my head that these people will see the error of their ways and change for the better. That’s progress on my end for certain. It gives me more peace to not think negatively of them.
One of my hopes for the future is the day we all look at each other equally. One’s not better than the other. We are all the same and each one of us matters just as much as the next one does. No person is more important than another just because of their social status, bank account, job, looks, number of friends or anything else. No one is inferior. So, the next time someone tries to make you feel inferior remember Eleanor’s words– “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent“. Say it in your head or say it out loud. However you choose to say it, just make sure you believe it.